For The Love

While sitting in the lobby of a car dealership a man saw Kyler on Jake's lap and said, "Looks like you guys did things the hard way. We got ours on Ebay. We have 2 little boys from China." Obviously joking about adopting his sons I found the conversation we had after that interesting. Jake told him that we are planning on adopting from Russia eventually. He said it wasn't really all that easy to adopt. We agreed and said that's why we were waiting awhile, to save money and be more prepared. He then asked, "How do you feel about fetal alcohol syndrom?" I told him it would be rough but we know that adopting from Russia comes with a lot of challenges and FAS is pretty common." The next part is what surprised me. He told us that China didn't have things like that and his kids were super smart. His 4 year old was using really big words and is in advanced preschool. I felt like he was trying to sell the idea of adopting from China to us. Like Russia is not a good place to adopt from. If you want a really good kid go for China. I'm sorry but adopting is Not like buying a new car. I don't plan on inspecting the child I adopt and saying, "well, his head is a little big and his teeth are crooked." I'm adopting for love. I'm going to accept whatever child God thinks I should have. I wouldn't rate the children I give birth to and adopting is no different. I know that people might think we are crazing for adopting, especially from Russia. We are able to bear children, we aren't rich, and Russia is one of the most crazy places to adopt from. Their government is crazy, making the process complicated, and regulations for adopting are crazy as well. We could "pass" all the tests and get to the court system and the judge could say no just because he doesn't like our smile. And like the guy at the dealership pointed out there is a lot of FAS and other health issues to contend with. And despite all that I still plan on adopting from Russia in my life time. I can't tell you exactly why I want to. I just know its what I need to do. I know of people that say they are done having kids and then later get this feeling that there is one more waiting up there. Well that's kind of how I feel. I have this precious baby girl who will be waiting for me when the time comes to adopt her. And no one can change that.